05 March 2008

Men Have A Harder Time Forgiving Than Women Do

How interesting a piece of research is this? Men Have A Harder Time Forgiving Than Women Do:
"Men have a harder time forgiving than women do, according to Case Western Reserve University psychologist Julie Juola Exline. But that can change if men develop empathy toward an offender by seeing they may also be capable of similar actions. Then the gender gap closes, and men become less vengeful."
So much in that little bit: the place of empathy in forgiving, the implications for theological reflection on atonement and forgiveness (including on gender constructions and Deity), gender itself ... Not to mention that it seems to validate Jesus' approach about recalling our own sins and being forgiven as a help in forgiving (the parable of the unmerciful servant is a major example).
To explain a bit more
people of both genders are more forgiving when they see themselves as capable of committing a similar action to the offender's; it tends to make the offense seem smaller. Seeing capability also increases empathic understanding of the offense and causes people to feel more similar to the offenders. Each of these factors, in turn, predicts more forgiving attitudes.
"Offenses are easier to forgive to the extent that they seem small and understandable and when we see ourselves as similar or close to the offender,
It certainly seems to forground empathy and self-knowing humility as key building blocks to the ability to forgive.

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