The issue of suffering is not why but how?

That's what I have preaced several times in various churches I've been in. The thing that Buddhism made clear to me for my own faith is that suffering is and for most purposes the thing to do is not to focus on 'why?' questions but 'how...?' in particular 'how do I/we make this suffering count for eternity?'; for me this arises from reflection on Luke 13:1-5 where, in many ways, this seems to be the way Jesus answers.
Anyway, here's Richard Rohr saying something related which I very much resonate with. It's found at Brian McLaren's blog:
Do we transform our pain ... or ...:

"f we do not find some way to transform our pain, I can tell you with 100% certitude we will transmit it to those around us. We will create tension, negativity, suspicion, and fear wherever we go. Both Jesus and Buddha made it very clear to their followers that “life is suffering.” You cannot avoid it. It is no surprise that the central Christian logo became a naked, bleeding, suffering man. At the end of life, and probably early in life, too, the question is, “What do I do with this disappointment, with this absurdity, with this sadness?” Whoever teaches you how to transform your own suffering into compassion is a true spiritual authority. Whoever teaches you to project your doubt and fear onto Jews, Moslems, your family, heretics, gays, sinners, and foreigners, or even to turn it against yourself (guilt and shame) has no spiritual authority. Yet these very people have often preached from authoritative pulpits."